Being Assertive
Asserting Your Self With Confidence

The solution to being assertive is judging when to assert yourself and having the confidence to do so. If you're not asserting yourself you're not getting the most out of life.

Some over assertive people drive other people away by imposing their thoughts feelings upon others. By reading situations with clarity we can not only stand up for ourselves, we can do so without putting others down.

Don't Get Angry

Aggression is not assertion, therefore being aggressive is not asserting yourself in fact it is showing a lack of self control.

Asserting yourself requires you to say what and how you feel and put those comments out there without using anger as a tool.

Inner strength is a powerful factor in having an assertive mindset and sometimes being insistent requires us to find strength that we never thought we had. Everyone has amazing inner strength and courage they just have to harness it to overcome shyness.

It's Not As Hard As You May Think

Asserting ourselves is easier than some people may think, some times we only need to give ourselves a little nudge in the right direction.

The real solution to being assertive is to overcome your personal obstacles be they Aggression, Shyness, Laziness, Lack of Judgment or lack of confidence. Each perceived weakness should be tackled individually and this will help you assert yourself on a regular basis.

Know Your Barriers - Work On Them

Once you learn to be bold and insistent you will never feel that feeling in the pit of your stomach that makes you want to scream, shout, cry or just run away. Face your individual barriers one by one.

*Control your Aggression

*Overcome shyness

*Get motivated and beat laziness/procrastination

*Improve your social skills

*Building confidence

Too Lazy Vs Too Scared

Some people are just too lethargic to stand up for themselves, whilst others are scared and they fear they consequences.

Fear isn't a valid excuse, because if you let fear control you then others will use that fear and you may become a slave to it.

Laziness on the other hand is a whole other thing. If you just can't be bothered then that attitude will carry over into and pervade every area of your life, rendering you incompetent and in the eyes of other an failure.

Beat laziness and get motivated to stand up for what matters to you. That's were a lot of people find their passion - In matters of personal importance.



Take on each barrier to assertion and each strength you develop will in turn assist in other areas. It's synergistic and very fulfilling to improve your life in the areas that hold you back.

While it always takes some effort to change, the benefits are well worth the effort.

Being Assertive By "Dominique Deveaux"

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